Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Why criticizing others is not wise?

If you complain about others you are not doing wise. 99 per cent of people would not see the guilt on his side even if it is great. The person you criticize automatically begins to make excuses and feel almost compelled to defend, so your criticism is an absurd. It is also dangerous, because it is bad for self-esteem and pride of the criticized person and as a result this person becomes unfavorable to you. 

When you training an animal, it will do what you want faster and will better remember a particular trick, if you will be rewarded it for desired behavior, than if you used a penalty. It's the same with people. If you criticize someone, you usually do not change him. Instead, very often, that person will always have the regret about it. 

Is criticism can change what happened? Unfortunately not. Pretensions and dislikes due to criticism corrupt workers, family members and friends. Those whom we consider to be the culprits are trying to blame the other. This is due to human nature. If you were in their shoes you would do the same. 

Criticism is like a boomerang - always come back to you. You can be sure that the person you criticize or condemn, will want to get rid of guilt, even only in their own eyes, by blaming you. Do not make hasty judgments, because someone can judge hastily you too. Criticism and seeking those guilty is usually pointless. 

There is only one person that you can change, improve and instruct it is yourself. Do you want to change start with yourself. It is much better than trying to change others. It is also more secure. 

 "Don't complain about the snow on your neighbor's roof when your own doorstep is unclean." - Confucius 

 If you think that people always follow the logic that you're wrong. People equally, and even more cause by emotions, full of prejudice and pride that comes from vanity. 

 "Speak ill of no man, but speak all the good you know of everybody." - Benjamin Franklin

 Complaining, condemn and criticize is something that any fool can do and, interestingly, most fools do. Trying to understand and forgive requires character and self-control. However, we should strive with all our might to understand others rather than immediately condemn them. Ask yourself why others do what they do. It is more interesting and better than criticizing. In this way you will be seen as sympathetic, tolerant and kind man.

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